Chastity Training Tips for Keyholders

When it comes to training your man, the sky is the limit. Or rather, how far you want to take his training is the limit. The more you train him, the more obedient (and useful) he will become!

But first, I suppose I should explain what I mean by training. In terms of a chastity relationship, training your man in chastity includes both training him to wear the cage longer and becoming more obedient and subservient. Basically, helping him become your perfect partner.

So, how do you go about training your man using chastity cages? Keep reading to find out!

1. Chastity Chores

If you’ve read our other articles then you will know that this is something we swear by. Chastity chores are a must when it comes to training your man. Give him a list of daily and weekly chores that he MUST do in order to be released from his cage. This is your first step towards making your man much more useful.

Read the list of Our Favorite Chastity Chores

2. Grade His Work

Sometimes simply accomplishing his chores isn’t good enough. Giving him a weekly and monthly chastity grade is a great next step. Maybe he made the bed everyday, but it wasn’t quite to your liking or he didn’t put all the pillows in the right place? Lower his grade. Perhaps he did your laundry but didn’t fold it correctly? Lower his grade. He asked for release from his cage? Big grade drop.

You get the idea, but what do you do with his grade? You use it to determine if he is allowed to get unlocked AND if he is allowed to orgasm. Ultimately, the grading scale is yours as well as how tough of a grader you are, but have fun with it. Just remember, the more strict you are, the better he will learn to do things your way.

3. Longer Lockups and Orgasm Denial

Men are simple creatures and let their need to cum get to their heads. After being locked up for a few days they will start to become desperate and will be extra nice and sweet to get a chance to get unlocked. But once they cum they change and seem to go back to their same old selves. The solution? Longer lockups and withholding orgasms.

It may seem cruel, but you will be amazed by how much your man changes after each week goes by. Before you know it you will have him melting into your hand. Not only will he do anything you desire, but he will become the best version of himself. The submissive version.

Make sure to tease him and keep him horny to make him extra submissive.

Learn Why Orgasm Denial is Good for Him

4. Make Him Love Pleasing You

He already should love to please you, but if you make going down on you or using toys to pleasure you his only sexual outlet, he will grow to love it even more. I’ve even heard men say that they feel like they share orgasms when they please their wives after long lockups in chastity cages. How amazing does that sound? Not only that, but you will soon start to love the feeling of just rolling over and going to sleep after you orgasm and not having to deal with pleasuring him in return.

5. Ruined Orgasms

Ruined orgasms are fun because you actually let him orgasm, but you take away all of the pleasure. To do this, get him to the point of climax through sex, oral, hand, however, and once he’s about to burst stop everything. His cum will dribble out (it will still shoot for some men) but by stopping the stimulation it removes his pleasure of finishing the act and diminishes the pleasure. Some men stay hard afterwards and don’t even feel like they’ve orgasmed at all. Because they have and you let them, they still need to be appreciative of it.

Giving him a ruined orgasm will remind him of what he’s missing by being locked in chastity and make him that much more eager to please you to get a real orgasm.

6. Make Him Your Submissive

What better way to make a man your submissive then by putting him in submissive positions. Yes, that could mean him bent over while you fuck him with a dildo, but that’s not where I meant to go with this! What I meant was to find ways to make him your servant. That could be by bringing you breakfast in bed, running your errands for you, talking down to him in public, or even serving you and your girl friends drinks.

Simply put, the more you put him in a submissive role, the more he will grow to become submissive for you.


As we said earlier, the sky is the limit with how far you go with your man’s training. Maybe some day you will make him your sissy maid or cuckold him, but whatever you decide, make sure it is what YOU want, not him. You hold his keys and are in control so have fun with training him to become your perfect, obedient partner.

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